Hi All. I know many of you are wondering why I dropped off the online planet and where I've been instead. I left social media for personal reasons. I expected it to be temporary, and I may find that it was, but for now I know I don't want to be online. Over the past months I have discovered a few things for myself that make me think I won't be logging in again for some time.
(Please note I am only speaking for Julie Comstock and not prescribing my path for anyone else or judging anyone on a different path.)
I'm happier without social media.
I can hear you asking, "What? I don't think I could give up my facebook? OMgoodness, you mean Pinterest and Instagram too??!!"
Yes my friends, I am significantly happier without these things. I replaced facebook with face to face activities featuring people in real life. It's definitely not as many people, but face to face interactions make me happy. Facebook interactions often leave me feeling a mixture of complex emotions, some of which are not pretty like jealousy, resentment, anxiety and believe it or not, loneliness.
Living presently... that's hard to do with social media!
My cell phone is a narcissist. It is constantly begging for attention. It never respects my boundaries. It always interrupts "look at me, feed me, look at me, play with me, look at me." If you dare to find a minute to do something without it, it seems to worm its way into your thoughts saying, "Stop paying attention to real life and pay attention to me. You have to share this... NOW, NOW, NOOOOOOWWWWWW!!!!!."
But, once I give into my cell phone narcissist, it knows it's won. Now I have to interact, reply, watch for post popularity, etc. Now it is back to, "look at me, play with me, look at me, feed me, look at me." All the while, real life is passing by as quiet as a whisper and I'm missing it.
I am more creative offline.
It's really difficult for me to find/feel creativity online. Seeing things on Pinterest takes ideas from me because I don't like to copy. I may have come up with that on my own, but after seeing someone else do it I feel like it's not an option.
Also, my brain doesn't live in a creative space while online. I generate many more and much better ideas while on walks or doing yard work. In fact, last night on my back deck I had a really great one! Has it already been done? I don't know! Which is perfect because I feel free to pursue it.
Here's my personal truth:
People matter more than followers.
Actions are more meaningful than posts and tutorials.
My ears like the sound of voice more than the chime of texts.
My eyes like looking into other's eyes, not screens.
My heart needs exercise not pinterest quotes.
The stats I want to live by having nothing to do with social media.
And a personal perk, I'm no longer supplying facebook with free market research.
Here's to finding your best life, your most happiness and your biggest dreams... where ever that may be for you.
PS: Dear friend that sent me the most awesome package, I am sorry I haven't thanked you as of yet. I'm working on it.... just wanted you to know. LOVE YOU!